Why do women love assholes?

Well this is actually something I have been wondering for a long time. Women and assholes, we stick together like glue!

I was doing some research yesterday about this, read some articles talking of theories and reasons why. Today I'm going to write some of this "whys".

Clearly women are more mature then men, but we are more sensitive and are easily manipulated by the common asshole. There are a lot of theories that say it is the guys fault, which is not wrong but not completely right either.

Women that are very often attracted to assholes most be (for lack of better words) stupid and naive. This could be for the following reasons:

1. We are stupid and always end up dating an asshole because we are insecure and feel we don't deserve anything better, or because we don't think we can do any better.

2. We are stupid and always end up dating an asshole because we think they'll change and deep down inside we just KNOW they have true feelings for us.

Personally, this last one always kills me. Lets face it, it fits my description perfectly. Not afraid of admitting I'm stupid and naive, but I will say "I'm not letting any asshole put me down!!"

Continuing the explanation. I'm going to mention what we must feel or think regarding our attraction to the assholes in the following:

• He is just so attractive with his whole attitude, so arrogant, so "confident", so carefree.
• He looks so hot, I mean he is so hot. Maybe not Brad Pitt, but somehow he is just so hot.
• He looks at me with that little stare, that sexy little stare. It makes me feel like I'm so desirable.
• I feel safe around him, like nobody or nothing would get in our way. He protects me.
• He is so troubled by his passed, he has been through so much. He needs me and I have to be patient.
• I cant expect him to be perfect. He is trying is best, isn't he?
• He doesn't talk to me often, but when he does he says that he cant stop thinking about me. He is so proud, that's why he doesn't chase me around much. I like him even though he has a big pride.
• When we kiss, when we have sex, it is all just too good!... Nobody else could make me feel this good.

See what I mean ladies?... And at the end, we don't get enough attention, enough care, enough anything. Of course, women like challenges. We want men to think about us all the time. We want them to see us as goddesses per say.

Yes, women are selfish, but just because we want men to want us like crazy doesn't mean we actually want them to go crazy. This leads me to my next point.

Men, Do we really want them to go crazy for us?

The answer is No! We don't want men to go literally crazy, we don't want stalker type guys after us. We whine about how we want a good guy, how hard it is to find good guys now a days, or typical phrase of a pissed off woman "good guys don't exist!". But I have got a news flash for you girls. Good guys exist! And they aren't needy drooling morons nor mean egocentric assholes!

Sometimes men and women think that the usual good guy is the guy that does everything to be with the girl. Gets desperate, needy, gives constant (even annoying) quantities of attention. We picture the good like a guy that seems to live only for us. Women don't want that, we don't want a guy to need us like that. To keep believing in this stupid cliché is useless, cause women will end up thinking that they don't want good guys and they cant be happy with assholes either.

The real good guys are everywhere, they could have even been known as assholes in some point. We as women have to learn how to see the difference between an asshole and a good guy, because sometimes just cause we are pissed, we tend to mix things up.

For a man to be a true asshole, he has have to have done at least one of the following:

• Assault you in any physical and psychological way.
• Cheated in any way (include lying, sleeping with another girl, etc).
• Use you in any way. (mostly manipulate you or just plainly use you for sex)

Of course, this features don't count if a women knowingly lets this things happen to her. When she knows or is conscious of any of the three features mentioned, that means the guy is not an asshole (or not so much of an asshole) and that she is completely stupid. Depending on the girl, we could be talking about a crazy cunt, but I'm supposing most of my readers are good and "normal" women.

Finally, to answer the most important question of then all. Will we ever get a good guy for ourselves? or Will we be stuck in an asshole pit of doom?... Well the answer is simple. It all depends on us, it really does. We can be with who ever we want, if we always end up with asshole, we should ask ourselves "why?". Women can find good guys, we just need patience, a good eye and mostly damn good luck, cause we all cant get a great guy. Hey maybe some of us will end up happier with a single ladies life, who knows? Just don't give your hopes up ladies.

Never think you are worthless just cause an asshole made you feel that way. We all deserve better, we just have to know how to let that happen.

If you wish to add any opinions or any thoughts just comment, Id love to hear what you guys think.