Hello! I'm back, and my subject today is Friendship

Well... It has been forever since I last wrote anything here. So I'll make a good summary of happenings.

Life is good. I have giving up on my Nordic Sex God, and I have found a Prince Charming. How about that? Very corny. I know.

Lately, an issue has presented itself to me, and I find myself pondering about it. Main issue: Friendship.

First question: What is friendship?

The dictionary says "relationship with a friend". So since that wasn't very helpful, I search for Friends, the dictionary says "a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection".

This concept is very enlightening, because people tend to confuse what an actual friend is. I personally have a lot of issues with friends. Not easy finding a good one, but you know, it isn't easy being a good friend neither.

Second question: How do you know does friends are for real?

My honest opinion would be you don't, you can't really expect to know if a person is a real friend. People lie all the time, and some even love playing pretend. If you aren't a psychic, you can't just know for sure what a person is really like.

More than communication, it takes time to see the difference between a real friend and a faker. What gives away a true friend is basically the fact that they can withstand you, by this I mean, tolerate your biggest flaws and embrace your biggest attributes during the whole friendship.

Third question: How do you know that you are a good friend?

It isn't easy being a perfect friend, but being a good one just takes patients, understanding, and attentiveness. People don't usually realize that last point. Being attentive to your friend is so important, of course, not everybody has time to give attention to their friends all the time. I, myself, feel like I never have enough time for it, or just don't feel like it. But paying attention to the little things is always a big thing at the end.

I have heard people whine lately about how little attention some friends pay to them, and they are right to be pissed. Nobody should underestimate saying things to their friends like "I care about you" or "you are important to me", because those friends will remember that, and appreciate it.

Last question: Why talk about this?

Well, I've been thinking a lot about friendships lately. I've lost some, gain some, and so on. But nothing bothers me more than when a person you care about decides to not care about you anymore. It has happened to me before, and I honestly don't get it. It makes me uncomfortable, since you don't really know how to act. It all becomes awkward, and everybody is expecting some fight, that is probably never going to happen.

A friend is a person you share a special bond with. If that special bond is broken, then I guess, it's time to let go. I'm bad at letting go, aren't you?